As I have gotten older, I realize my mom was right, on many things, but one in particular. She told me that as an adult I would be able to count my true friends on one hand. I never really thought that was possible until it happened after I got married and had kids. Some of the friends I thought were "true" friends have fallen by the wayside, some were gone for a little while and have reappeared, and some have never left. I especially love the ones who never left.
Today I witnessed a teenage boy who was helping take care of his sick friend, another teenage boy. He was so helpful and just wanted to be there for his sick friend. He stayed by his friend's side the past few days and hasn't left. I told him that he was a great friend and was going to be an integral part in helping his friend heal. I wish I could share more, but can't. It was just a really touching thing to watch - especially since we don't often see teenage boys being so vulnerable and in need of friendship.
I think friendship gets harder with age, but I think it becomes more precious as well. It becomes harder because we have less time to dedicate to just hanging out. It becomes more precious because you realize someone who lives across the country still knows you inside and out, and even when you barely see each other, you can pick up exactly where you left off every single time.
The main thing is, you have to MAKE time for your friends. It takes effort. When you love someone, you make time for them. I am not someone who likes talking on the phone, but I realize it's important to cultivate friendships. I am a big believer in sending cards too. The other day I got a card in the mail randomly from my high school friend and it was such a treat. She thought of me and took the time to do that for me. So take the time to send a card, call, or take a friend to lunch. You never know how much it will mean. I love the quote "People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel." Make time for a friend today, make them feel as special as they are!
